What Are the Most Common Reasons for Divorce?

 Posted on December 09, 2019 in Divorce

Marriage may look bright and shiny on the outside, but it can be a difficult relationship to maintain over the years. As people change, sometimes their partners do not change alongside them. No couple stays the same throughout the entirety of their marriage. For some couples, this can lead to new adventures throughout life’s stages, while for others, it can cause them to grow apart with no hope for reconciliation. Every marriage is unique, but there are a few common denominators that experts have found to be frequent causes of divorce. 

Money, Money, Money

In the past, many couples got married at a young age, meaning that they often did not have much money to their names. This has shifted in the last decade, as millennials decide to wait a little longer before tying the knot. Money troubles are common for young couples looking to start a life together. Rather than taking the time to build up a fair amount of savings, these couples can find themselves struggling to pay their bills, putting their relationship on the back burner. Although this is common with younger couples, those who get married later are far from exempt from financial issues. Some are used to being independent and find it difficult to share finances with their partner, while others run into hard times financially due to a job loss or medical care costs. Regardless of the reason, disagreements regarding money are common for all couples, and they can sometimes make or break a relationship.

Unrealistic Expectations

Marriage is not an easy endeavor, and no union is exempt from the push and pull of life. Some couples fail to recognize this before deciding to spend the rest of their life with another person. A dating relationship is very different than a married one, yet many couples do not realize this until they are a few years into a marriage. They may have imagined all of the Hollywood-esque depictions of marriage and chosen to ignore the realities of life, such as balancing a job, a social life, their children’s lives, and their connection with their partner. When the honeymoon stage comes to an end, some couples fail to make it as they hold onto their idealized version of marriage rather than their real one.

Lack of Intimacy

One of the first questions that a marriage counselor will ask a couple is, “Are you still intimate with each other?” Intimacy includes more than just sexual relations. Married couples must maintain a healthy level of physical and emotional intimacy in order to feel connected as partners. It can be easy for couples to get invested in their own routines and fail to recognize that they have spent little time with each other. Before long, these breaks of intimacy can extend and become a much larger issue. Without intimacy, some couples can feel as if they are living with a roommate rather than a spouse, leaving them looking for physical and emotional intimacy elsewhere.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer

Many couples who suffer from the above issues find a way to overcome them by talking to each other or asking a professional for help. No marriage is perfect, and recognizing that can help couples move in the right direction. Unfortunately, this is not the case with all marriages. Some are not meant to withstand the various trials that are bound to hit them as they build their life together. At the Goostree Law Group, we understand how difficult divorce can be for both spouses, and we work to ensure that our clients have the proper legal support to get them through this emotional time. With more than 80 years of combined experience, our divorce attorneys know what it takes to achieve a favorable outcome. If you are considering divorce, contact our Wheaton divorce attorneys at 630-364-4046 for a free consultation.

Source:

https://www.marriage.com/advice/divorce/10-most-common-reasons-for-divorce/